Wednesday, January 24, 2007
Hey yal! i took this test; Are you a Secure Lover? and I have a Preoccupied relationship attachment style. it stated:You tend to worry about being abandoned in your romantic relationships. You have a strong desire for closeness, but may feel that others seem unwilling to get as close as you would like. It's likely that your openness to relationships is one of the first things potential partners notice about you. Attachment style begins in infancy with the interactions we have with our parents or primary caregivers. Through these early relationships we begin to understand the dynamics and patterns of close relationships and we carry this perspective into our adult relationships.1. It's important to me to spend quality time with others.
strongly agree2. I often worry about what other people think of me.agree3. I tend to want more closeness than others usually do.Agree 4. I sometimes worry that my romantic partner will leave me.Agree5. I find most people to be trustworthy.Strongly Agree6. I'm drawn to potential dating partners who:Gradually share more intimate details about themselves7. I tend to invest a great deal of my emotional energy in my romantic relationships.strongly agree
8. I'm not always confident about my own judgment.strongly agree9. I feel happy with the person I am today.strongly agree
10. I would prefer a job in which I work closely with others.Strongly agree.. but what would it be?
11. It would offend me greatly if someone I was on a date with flirted with the bartender.strongly agree12. I often think that if people really knew me they wouldn't like me.Disagree
13. I'm more drawn to potential romantic partners who are:Somewhat cool and self-contained14. When I'm under stress I tend to seek support from friends or family.agree ...mostly friends, best friends15. I frequently think about romantic relationships, even if I'm not in one.agree
16. I have a difficult time saying good-bye.agree 17. I often feel that others understand me.agree 18. In a romantic relationship, I prefer to spend all of my free time with my partner.strongly agree19. Most people are only out for themselves.Disagree20. I'm drawn to people who want their romantic relationship to meet all of their needs.agree21. I'm more likely to choose someone to date who has a:Fear of abandonment22. I'm uncomfortable meeting new people.Disagree23. Very few people really know and understand me.disagree
24. I don't usually tell people very much about myself.disagree25. I work hard to please others.agree26. Without a romantic relationship, my life feels empty.disagree27. I let myself be vulnerable to others.disagree28. I'm more drawn to potential dating partners who:Focus primarily on their close relationships29. Large social gatherings are usually a waste of time.disagree ...it's not a waste of time if you're meeting your pals30. Under stress I tend to be highly emotional.agree ...it's true >.<31. It's very important to me that other people like me.agree32. I don't mind eating alone in a restaurant.strongly disagree ...unless the person i'm eating with is in the washroom ;' ] 33. People are often more distant than I'd like.disagree34. I tend to be very jealous.disagree ...never jealous, more like envious >.<35. I'm drawn to people who seem to really need me.agree36. Other people usually don't share as much about themselves as I would like.disagree
37. When people I care for move away, I worry that I'll never see them again.agree 38. I am very compassionate.agree39. I tend to be extremely nervous on a first date.agree 40. I'm drawn to people who won't leave me.agree
41. When I'm not in a romantic relationship, I tend to get very lonely.not at all42. I'm often afraid that something bad will happen to someone I love.agree43. When I'm sad I:cry by myself44. I'm comfortable taking risks because:I know that I have close friends or family who will support me, even if I fail (not sure about my mum though, i'm sure she would nag)
45. I find trusting other people to be:difficult ...unless i know their personalilty like my classmates or my best friends
46. Which of the following most closely reflects how you feel?I do not need love to be happy
47. I'm able to be a better partner now than I was in the past.Strongly agree48. I'm making progress on my own relationship issues.strongly agree49. I have more confidence in my relationship skills than ever before.ah... this is hard! agree50. I'm more drawn to potential dating partners who:Play their cards close to the vest51. I'd prefer to have a romantic relationship with someone who was interested in:Spending as much time as possible with me
Wednesday, January 24, 2007 how do i live without you . Y
